3. Boundaries

Self-respect

Boundaries are sewn into the parts of who you are for they are not to be crossed.

Self-love can be expressed in many different ways: sometimes it needs to manifest in a spa day with girlfriends, getting up to exercise or sleeping in later than usual, while at other times it manifests in a need to set and enforce boundaries so that no one person completely drains you of your energy. No one is allowed or even needs to take all of you; no one has the right to demand all of your time, energy or resources or any parts of who you are. It isn't selfish to want to keep some things for yourself, as doing so is a show of self-respect and an understanding that you cannot give what you don't have.

Imagine trying to give more of your time when you don't have enough in the day to do what's already on your plate. Imagine spending more money when you're already in debt or giving more of your energy to make someone else happy when you've been depressed for a very long time. You have pulled Boundaries because you are giving too much of yourself away without recharging your batteries. You are encouraged to say 'NO' more often or at the very least 'Not right now'.

Know that this is for the good of everyone in your personal orbit, that you will have so much more to give once you are in a proper place of balance. Additionally, make sure to follow through with any boundaries you've set, as other people will push your limits to see how much you are willing to bend to their desires. Stay committed to yourself and stand your ground.

Pay special attention if Boundaries appears in a reading along with Goddess or Self-worship. Receiving any combination of these cards is a significant warning and clear sign that you cannot continue as you have. Consider a retreat or spa weekend or any activity that will remove you from your regular life for a while. If a vacation or other such trip is not available to you, think about spending a few hours every week in a quiet place outside of your home such as the bush, a park or meadow or other secluded area.