Does He Love Me? A Tarot Spread to Understand His True Feelings

You know the feeling. You’re lying next to someone — or texting someone, or thinking about someone — and the question surfaces again: Does he actually love me? Or am I reading too much into this?

Love is the one area of life where our judgment is least reliable. We see what we want to see. We interpret ambiguity as affection. We mistake intensity for depth. And we second-guess genuine love because past experiences taught us to expect it to disappear.

Tarot can help cut through the noise. Not by reading his mind — the cards can’t do that — but by reflecting the energy of the connection and helping you see what your emotions might be obscuring.

The “True Feelings” spread

5 cards in a V shape:

[1]           [2]
   [3]     [4]
      [5]

Card 1: What he shows you. His visible behavior — how he acts, what he says, the face he presents when you’re together.

Card 2: What he hides. What’s beneath the surface. Feelings he hasn’t expressed, thoughts he hasn’t shared, vulnerabilities he’s protecting.

Card 3: What you want to see. Your hopes about his feelings. This card is a reality check — it shows the story you’re telling yourself, which may or may not match reality.

Card 4: What’s actually there. The objective emotional truth of the connection. This is the most important card in the spread.

Card 5: What this means for you. Your takeaway. What should you do with this information?

Why this spread works

Most “Does he love me?” spreads focus entirely on the other person. This one includes your perception (Card 3) alongside the reality (Card 4). That comparison is where the real insight lives.

If Card 3 and Card 4 align, your instincts are correct — whether the answer is yes or no. If they contradict each other, you’ve been seeing what you wanted to see rather than what’s actually there. That’s not a failure. It’s human. And now you can adjust.

Cards that say “yes, he loves you”

The strongest love signals:

• Two of Cups — Mutual, balanced, genuine connection. If this appears in Position 4, the love is real and reciprocal.
• The Lovers — Deep alignment beyond just romance. He’s choosing you consciously.
• Ace of Cups — New or renewed emotional depth. His heart is opening.
• Ten of Cups — Long-term emotional commitment. He sees a future with you.
• Knight of Cups — He’s emotionally moved and willing to show it. Romantic intentions are genuine.
• The Sun — Pure, uncomplicated affection. Joy in your presence.
• The Empress — Nurturing, protective love. He wants to care for you.
• The Star — He sees you as something hopeful and beautiful in his life.
• Six of Cups — Tenderness and genuine fondness. The love has an innocent, sweet quality.
• King of Cups — Emotionally mature love. He feels deeply but expresses it with control and consistency.

Cards that say “it’s complicated”

Not no — but not a clear yes:

• The Moon — Something is hidden. He may have feelings but fear, confusion, or past wounds are distorting them. Or: you’re not seeing the situation clearly.
• Seven of Cups — He may care about you, but he’s also pulled in other directions. The feelings exist but aren’t focused.
• The Hermit — He’s turned inward. This isn’t necessarily about you — he may be processing something personal that has nothing to do with the relationship.
• Four of Cups — Emotional distance. He may be taking the connection for granted or not recognizing what he has.
• Two of Swords — He’s stuck. He has feelings but is conflicted about what to do with them.
• Temperance — The feelings are there but developing slowly. Patience is needed.

Cards that say “no, not in the way you hope”

The harder truths:

• Eight of Cups — Emotional withdrawal. He’s walking away from the connection, or has already.
• Five of Cups — Grief or disappointment dominates his emotional landscape toward this relationship.
• Three of Swords — Pain. Either he’s caused it and feels guilt, or the connection itself causes him pain.
• The Devil — The connection exists, but it’s based on attachment, habit, or physical chemistry rather than genuine love.
• Seven of Swords — Deception. Someone isn’t being honest — possibly him about his feelings, possibly you with yourself.
• Five of Swords — The dynamic is adversarial rather than loving.
• Knight of Swords — If in Position 2 (what he hides), this suggests sharp, cutting thoughts rather than warm feelings.

Reading Position 2 honestly

Card 2 — what he hides — is the most emotionally charged position. It’s tempting to interpret anything in this position as “secret love.” But hidden feelings aren’t always hidden love.

A person might hide:

• Feelings of being overwhelmed by the relationship
• Attraction to someone else
• Fear of commitment
• Genuine love they’re afraid to express
• Indifference they’re masking with polite behavior

Let the card guide you rather than your hopes. The Knight of Cups in Position 2 means something very different from the Eight of Cups in Position 2.

The Card 3 reality check

Position 3 — what you want to see — is your mirror. It shows the narrative you’re constructing about his feelings.

If Card 3 is The Lovers or Two of Cups: You want this to be a deep, reciprocal love story. Check if Card 4 confirms it.

If Card 3 is The Star: You’re hoping he’s the answer to your prayers, the healing you’ve been waiting for. Beautiful — but make sure Card 4 supports this hope.

If Card 3 is The Emperor or King of Pentacles: You want stability, commitment, protection. You may be projecting these qualities onto someone who hasn’t demonstrated them yet.

If Card 3 is The Moon or Seven of Cups: Even your hopes are uncertain. Part of you already senses that the picture isn’t clear.

Beyond the cards

If you’re asking “Does he love me?” frequently — through tarot, through friends’ opinions, through analyzing his texts — the question itself is information.

In relationships where love is clearly present, the question doesn’t loop endlessly. You may wonder how much or in what way, but the fundamental “does this person care about me?” is answered daily through their actions.

If you’re constantly seeking confirmation that someone loves you, consider:

• Are they showing love in ways you’re not recognizing? (Different love languages)
• Are your past experiences making you distrust genuine affection?
• Or is the persistent uncertainty telling you something accurate about the relationship?

The cards can illuminate these questions. But sometimes the most important reading isn’t the spread on the table — it’s the honest conversation you have with yourself afterward.

Try it this week

Shuffle with his face in your mind. Lay the five cards. Read them with courage — the courage to see what’s there, even if it’s not what you hoped for.

And remember: whatever the cards reveal, your worth isn’t determined by whether one specific person loves you. You are lovable regardless of anyone else’s feelings. The cards know this, even when you forget.